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January 2005 Newsletter:
You
will never find time for anything. You must make it. Yes, it’s a new year coming up! A time for positive changes! And among the New Year’s resolutions that will be made, one of the most common ones will involve procrastination. Have you promised yourself anything like this? That you will not fall behind on important tasks, not put things off till the last possible moment? I’m not making fun of you. Telling ourselves that we want to do better is an important first step – it means we recognize that procrastination has caused stress and anxiety for us in the past, and that we don’t want that kind of stress anymore. But how do we change a habit as ingrained as procrastination? We’ve all heard the standard advice: “just do it,” “make a plan,” “be more organized” or “learn to manage your time better” – and if such advice really worked, procrastination wouldn’t be as common as it is. Worse, such advice makes procrastination sound like something easy to solve. So, if you still procrastinate, you get to feel like a failure as well; you can start labeling yourself as “lazy,” “disorganized,” or “a hopeless procrastinator.” Well, here’s some good news. Procrastination is not caused by laziness, and is not cured by better time management techniques or organizational skills. People with a tendency to procrastinate (and that’s all of us!) usually don’t procrastinate on everything – only on tasks that they find overwhelming, boring, or both. If something is interesting or personally important, most of us find the time and the motivation to work long and hard on that task. So it is first of all a “task” problem, not a “person” problem. This is not to say that we can’t have an effect on such behavior, because we all have to do things that don’t interest us sometimes. The biggest thing we can do is to watch what we say to ourselves to justify putting things off just a little longer. When we start to recognize these “cognitive distortions” and learn to “talk back” to those excuses, we are more likely to get started. Here are some examples of common cognitive distortions, and ways of dealing with them. See if you recognize any of these. • I
have plenty of time left to get this done – it’s
not due till next week. –You know what this leads to! You’ll
put this off until the last minute, and will concentrate then on
just getting it done instead of doing a good job. Here’s an
idea: make a deal with yourself to do only a small part of the task
right now, even if it’s only making a list of all the steps
involved to finish the task. Then get yourself to start doing the
first item on the list, as a jumpstart. Remember that the easiest person for you to fool is yourself. You probably wouldn’t accept these kinds of excuses from someone else, so don’t accept them from yourself! Ouch! This is difficult, isn’t it? This year, when you find yourself trying to justify that it’s okay to put things off until a “better time,” remind yourself that there is no such thing! If something needs to be done, cut the excuses and DO IT NOW! |
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